Finding Out It's Not All In Your Head- Fibro & CFS
76When I Was A Child
As far back as I can remember, 90% of the time I always felt like something was wrong with me. I was tired most of the time, and even when I wasn't tired within a few minutes of beginning something, my body would feel like a dead weight.
I was an adventurous child, growing up next to my grandparents and a few close relatives, and living a bit of a farm girl life. I loved working along side most all of the grownups, but I remember feeling like such a burden sometimes because though with good intentions, I just didn't last long. I craved learning. If something was broken, I would take it apart and try to fix it (usually succeeding) and put it back together.
I was one of 7 children in my family and my mom had it pretty rough for a long time. And living out in the country, with a good 30 min bus ride, we didn't become involved in many school activities. We did however have a lot of fun with all that country to investigate. Imagination was a good thing to have. Sometimes I often wondered if I was "imagining" that somehting was wrong with me.
At the age of 13, myself and the rest of my siblings came down with a horrible flu bug. Imagine my pregnant mother having to haul the 6 of us at the time to the Dr.
It was just a flu for everyone else, something involving many crop foods at that time, but for me it was the beginning of something else.
Just recently I found out that I not only had FAP type polyps, but Juvenile Polyps too. My intestines were full of them. I had been bleeding for some time and just didn't realize it.
They had been there for some time the Dr. said, and we were lucky to find them. He also said it was a good explaination for my feeling lethargic all of the time.
My Girls & I
Symptoms Confused or Coinciding
" In Juvenile Polyposis, polyps can be found in the large intestine, the small intestine and the stomach. Usually the colorectal polyps are the ones causing symptoms, such as bleeding, diarrhea, abdominal cramps and anemia." http://www.clevelandclinic.org/registries/inherited/jp.htm
Although my anemia was not life threatening, it was tiring all the same.
Along with being tired all of the time, I suffered severe headaches. I remember feeling so helpless and hopeless at one time, that I took about 20 tylenol (no joke) and put a note under my pillow in case I didn't wake up. I really felt as though I was dying and no body had the time to listen to me. I think my mother was just so overwhelmed at the time, that I just didn't want to bother her either.
I began having trouble concentrating in school, a few times actually dozing off in a class or two. And I hated it because I truly loved school at the time.
The rest of my aches and pains were thought to just be side effects of the bowel problems at the time.
A lot of my joint pain was shoved off by Dr.'s as "growing pains". When you are a child, and especially one taught to always respect your elders, you believe and go along with their explainations. Little did I know, I would even do that with my own children eventually.
When You Don't Realize You're Doing More Harm Than Good
As I got older I guess I just learned to live with it all. I had a total colectomy when I was 17 (1981) and had only a few infection problems after that. My energy didn't get much better, only worse, along with all the aches and pains, and in 1984 I attempted suiced. I just couldn't deal with it all. From that point on, being a survivor, I decided to educate myself as best as I could. In those days though, there wasn't much to research.
Today it is much different. It has only been through recent support groups that I have learned what damage I have done over the years simply because I was not educated on what my real problems were.
Depression in persons with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome is only one of the symptoms. I have always considered myself a fighter. But there were times I just couldn't do it alone. Being on the right kinds of medication would have helped me so much.
Of course, I had just always believed that I was depressed from having to go through so much as a child and not being educated on what I was going to go through with having an ileostomey at the age of 17. Trying to adjust back into school, relationships, no one told me how hard it was going to be.
Exercise for a person with FMS/CFIDS must start out slow and easy, only progressing with tolerance without damaging your body. My weight would go up and down, and I was always trying to prove that I was as normal as the next person, mostly because the doctors back when I had my surgery had told my parents to have me put on social security disability at the age of 17 because I would never lead a productive life as planned.
What kind of crap was that? I had plans, big plans. I was going into the Army and getting scholarships to go to college. Part of my down fall was when I interviewed for the army and was told that there was no way I would make it out in the field, rolling and crawling around on my stomach with a ostomy bag. What did they know? So I spent most of my life till now trying to prove that I could do anything anyone else could. Especially to have children some day.
Without knowing I had the illness' that I did, I really did a number on my body. I over exercised to the point of damaging joints, ligament, and muscles, not to mention my pride.
Children and adults with FMS/CFIDS should be closely monitered by a physician and a specialist in this field.
There are many things to consider when treating for FMS/CFIDS rather than just depression, fatigue and so forth. All of this makes a big difference in recovery or management.
"Treatment must be carefully tailored to meet the needs of each patient. Sleep disorders, pain, gastrointestinal difficulties, allergies, dizziness, light-headedness, blood pressure irregularity and depression are some of the symptoms which physicians commonly attempt to relieve with prescription and over-the-counter medications. Persons with CFIDS may have unusual responses to medications, so extremely low dosages should be tried first and gradually increased as appropriate."
"Lifestyle changes, including increased rest, reduced stress, dietary restrictions, nutritional supplementation and light exercise (such as walking) also are frequently recommended. These changes will likely impact a young person's educational and social experiences, and their long-term impact must be considered. Supportive therapy, such as counseling, can also help a young person with CFIDS identify and develop effective coping strategies"
http://www.cfids.org/youth/youth.asp#How_does_CFIDS_develop_in_children
Support
For children and teens with this debiliting disease, there are many support groups to be found on the internet.
http://www.pediatricnetwork.org/youthvoices/index.htm
http://home.bluecrab.org/~health/sickids.html - one for parents also.
Dominie's website has been a God-send for me lately.
http://www.revolutionhealth.com/blogs/dominie/doms-fmscfids-newsl-2578
As a user of yahoo, I simply went to groups and connected to as many support groups as I could. I don't alway write in, but I do read and listen. They offer many educational web sites, newsletters, etc.
It is of utmost importance that you find the help that fits your needs.
As an adult, just recently (and finally) diagnosed with fibromyalgia, I have finally found some of the answers I have unknowingly and knowingly been searching for for years. I have even found the correct way to approach my primary care physician about the problem I have suffered from for years. I'm trying not to bombard him with it all at once though. He has been great with me over the past 4 years, after my having contracted MRSA and nearly dying from a cortisone shot in one of my knee's. Thank God for me that the shot for each knee was done at seperate times, or I would have been gone before they figured it all out.
With my immune system having that shock in 2005, my symptoms and problems have worsened, and I am finally getting some of the help I need.
All physicians are different. Some may pass you off as a hypochondriac, so you search until you find one who WILL LISTEN. Believe me, there are doctors who listen.
Knowing The Causes & Effects
Although specialist have not been able to pinpoint the EXACT causes of these diseases, they have found that most cases have begun after someone has just endured a chronic bacterial or viral infection.
These kinds of infections cause nervous systems (sympathetic & parasympathetic) to become compromised and damaged.Your body's immune system is thrown into a state of chaos, causing a musculoskeletal imbalance throughout your body.
Your nerve ganglia become irritated and sensitive to the slightest of touch. There are several "trigger points" on the body used to test for FMS. Usually, but not always, CFIDS is associated with FMS.
Even after these viral/bacterial infections have been contained, your body still thinks it has to fight them, consuming energy resources and destroying otherwise healthy cells and thereby contributing to the overall feeling of exhaustion.
Lymphocytes in your body cannot find what they are looking for, so they begin to attack the wrong cells in your body.
Many times FMS/CFIDS and Lyme disease have been misdiagnosed for one another, making a correct diagnosis even harder.
Two types of physician/specialists trained to correctly diagnose either would be an Endocrinologist or a Rheumatologist.
For women, a hormonal imbalance may make your symptoms worse, also causing a misdiagnosis.
I know for me, trying to replenish or make up for my energy loss has caused me more problems. I cannot get right out of bed in the mornings, not without nearly an entire pot of coffee and my pain meds. And generally near mid afternoon, I am putting on another pot. Causing my body many more problems, actually reversing some of the good my medications have done.
Chronic Fatigue In Women
You & Your Children
I cannot find an answer to whether or not my daughters have inherited these diseases, but I do know that hey suffer from many of the same symptoms that I did as a child. My youngest daughter has been suffering from debilitatin migraines and on medication for them since the age of 5. And both of my daughters have had to be seen by a specialist at the local childrens hospital for what was thought to be "growing pains". When my first daughter was almost crawling, I noticed a "click" in one of her hips and had been concerned, but the pediatrician asked me if I had indian heritage (which we do somewhere) and explained it as something she would grow out of. And she did, but now almost 18 years old, she suffers from painful hip problems. It is also causing her some problems with her pregnancy.
With my having had FAP and Juvenile Polyposis, we are all now seeing a genetic specialist, in hopes of locating or disproving those specific genes in my children. Once I have a correct diagnosis for chronic fatigue, I have found that the specific gene for that can also be isolated and eventually located or not in my girls.
Parents, don't assume that your child is just lazy, or that they are faking symptoms to get out of school or chores. Please see a good doctor and rule certain things out before trying to take it into your own hands.
I am sure that I would have lived a better life, especially mostly pain free, if there had been someone there to search for answers for me.
It has even been found that mono can mimick or cause FMS/CFIDS in children or teens.
Listen to their complaints with an open heart and mind.
Women and men both should rule this out also. When you become plagued with these debilitating symptoms, depression usually soon follows. Because you're lost and unable to reverse symptoms that require may require special medications and treatment, you may blame yourself for something you have no control of.
Do not let your Dr. tell you that you are simply stressed, when practical approaches do not work.
Locate and ask for a second opinion with someone who specializes in these and other diseases like this.
Vitamin D Deficiency
5/13/2010
So, this past week I saw my primary care physician, who had ordered some blood work last appt. What is so strange about it all, is that some of the folks and I on my FGN page were just discussing the fact that they have a vitamin D deficiency. 3 days later I go to my Doc and find out that I do too. It was part of the blood work she had done.
Normal ranges of Vit. D in the body should range from 32.0-100.0 ng/mL
Mine was at 20.4 ng/mL. Not the lowest she has ever seen, but she was concerned especially since I was diagnosed with osteoporosis at the age of 32, and have a body full of osteoarthritis.
A friend of mine here had a recent reading of 18. That worries me for her. So I did some research last night to try to tie it all in to the FGN we all have. (fibrillary glomerulonephritis)
I was very amazed to find out that the same aches and pains we suffer with fibromyalgia, are also symptoms and effects from having a vitamin D deficiency. WHICH CAN BE TREATED.
Most of the time it is labeled as "Rickets".
Osteoporosis, heart disease, hypertension, autoimmune diseases, certain cancers, depression, chronic fatigue, and chronic pain comprises potential manifestations of the syndrome. That is not to say these illnesses are caused by vitamin D deficiency, nor that repletion of the vitamin D system will cure these illnesses. At this point, all that can be said is that these illnesses are associated with vitamin D deficiency.
The symptoms that I read about last night were: bone pain, muscle and joint pain.
And we all have a lot of that.
So ???????????????
More later.
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Hi Anita,
I have just come acros your Page and Just want to say how touched i am to read it all..It took me a while..lol.. (Diagnosed with M.e/cfs)..I am really taken back by the bit you wrote about your Daughters, and how they are showing similar symptoms to what you endured during childhood to..
Like the Migraines...Its just so scary to think that its possible that you have suffer this illness and possibly watch ur child follow in the same pattern...My heart really does go out to you...This is what is putting me off having children too...This is what i am afraid off..I have been diagnosed for nearly 3 years, and im 25 now and even though im house bound and mostly bed bound..I want to try and have children in the near future..But this whole idea that i might pass..what i have onto the child i have given birth too..to watch what has happened to your self..happen to your own child..I just dont know if i could do that...Im filling up with tears just typing this message...Please could you tell me anita...How do you manage...?? How did you feel thinking that history could reapeats itself in your children..?? It would maybe reassure me hearing some advice from one that has experieneced it..I apologise for asking you this..Its just i am new to all this interent blogging etc..and have never read anyone write the way you have written..
I think you are an inspiration to us all..and not just people diangnosed with fibromyalgia, M.E or CFS...(every1 prefers different way of wrtting it) To any1..... x X x...
Misspinky...
p.s
I have never wrote a blog or signed up to anything like this before...and just wanted to ask..what advice could you give me when actually trying to think of something to actually write about.?? I have been unable to work for nearly 3 years now and never knew about all these diff sites on the interent..and just thought if i could spend a little time each day..doing writting blogs...It would break my day up and hopefully...Keep my brain from slowly disappearing...lol..So any advice on the blogging...Internet would be greatly appreciated....
Keep doing what your doing...As your great a it..Really informative and touching blog...Well done for having the energy to get on here and tell the world...As enough people just dont know and understand how bad it can be..
Thanks Anita and Good Luck with yourself and your Girls...
I do hope it all works out in the end...
So sorry 4 such a long msg...
Hey Anita...
Wow..Thanks so much for taking the time to reply back in so much detail..I just wasnt expecting this..Fantastic..
I feel touched that you have replyied in such a way that maybe someone you have known for a long time would write..(if you get what i mean)...Thanks from the bottom of my heart..
You have given me so much to think about from what you have written..And i do appreciate you taking time out of ur day to write such beautiful words...
Hey as long as you know what you are doing and saying is true and from your heart..It doesnt matter what others say or write to you...As long as you can ignore them and not let it affect you..as that would be awful if its going to make you more ill..
You should carry on and keep doing such an excellent job...As you are right in what you are doing..
There arnt enough people that know about M.e/cfs and the more people that talk about it and write about it also..
Then its spreading the word and getting it out there.Or for the person that has just been diagnosed or hasnt yet got a diagnoses...Pages like yours can really get people through a bad time in there life..
Its like you title say's "Finding out it's not all in your head".....This is exactly what most people i am sure think when they start getting the symptoms of M.e/cfs...And im sure if i had read your Hub..before my diagnoses..I might have been able to make more sense alot quicker than i have done...
It has taken me nearly two years to accept what is going on with me..Having to give up my Career...I was at a great point in my job when i got ill..and it still hurts not being able to work..As i was one of those people with ants in my pants..Not being able to stop doing stuff and unable to sit down...I was always busy...And i loved cleaning..Even if stuf wasnt dirty..i'd still clean..a bit of OCD..on with cleaning....lol...
When i hear people say how much faith they have in God..and how that faith gets them through illness, family problems etc..It really impresses me that people can use that faith to help them to get through whatever problems they have in there life..But for some reason i cannot get my head around the religion thing yet...
I was bought up in a house with religion and god..and was religious when i was younger...But due to problems and things happning early on in life..I just grew futher apart from my religion and just havnt managed to get back to it..
I dont know maybe one day..It will just come to me and i will start believing again...and get my faith back..Not sure on that..Only time will tell...But i applaud you for being able to get youself through your bad times with your faith...
I want to start writting a blog or hub etc..As i do really need to do something...I think now i have accepted being the way i am ... and started to manage..Well basiclly i have realsied what i can do in a day and what i cant..I know my limits and my partner does toO.. It's funny, He knows when i have had enough and i need to lie down or take some medication etc..And tells me..to stop whtever it is that im doing...and get into bed to lie down..
I dont think i would have got through it all without him..he has been my rock through it all..
But now i just want to do something...and i thought writting a blog or something..would give me something to do..and i wouldnt be on a timescale where it had to be done at a certain time..you know..so if i wasnt well enough i wouldnt have to get online..
So im just going to try and think what exaclty to write about....This im sure will take me some time..
As my brain does not work like it used to do...
I just want to thank you again...and hopefully when i decide what to write about..If i could drop you a message and if you could maybe have a read of it and then just tell me your honest opinion what you think about it...If im heading in the right or wrong direction...lol...
I would really appreciate it....And same to you to if you want to have chat about anythin any time... then im here too...As soon as i get signed up on here ill drop you a mesage to let you know..
Thanks so so so Much...You are a great person and please keep doing what you are doing..As you may not realise that you have helped alot of people...Not everyone is going to comment on your Hub after they have read it...
So Keep up the fantastic work...Your a real star..
Please take care of yourself and Hopefully we will chat again soon....I would really like that...
All my love..
Misspinky...x X x...x X x....x X x..
Dear Anita,
I know you wrote this awhile back, but I am new to Hubpages and also have fibromyalgia. It is a horrible, horrible thing! Try not to get depressed. You are not alone. There are so many of us out there that go through the same things. Just wake up everyday knowing that no matter what, you are obviously stronger than this mystery illness. Take joy in your children-when you are in pain, think of the funny things they have done over the years. Soon, you will be laughing in spite of the pain.
When my mom was alive she would always say, "Offer it up for the souls in Purgatory". I used to make fun of her all the time for that statement and even now when I am in pain, her voice is in my head saying that line over and over. It still makes me laugh, but sometimes I wonder if that belief she had helped her before she died. She had stage 4 breast cancer; it was everywhere and I know that her pain had to be unbearable! After she died I went into her house and found so many unopened containers of pain meds, I couldn't believe it. Apparently, she never took what was prescribed for her pain. She was definitely stronger than I am, because I am a wuss when it comes to pain.
I guess what I am saying is- try to focus on the funny things that happen every day, in spite of the pain.









Enlydia Listener Level 6 Commenter 2 years ago
Chronic Pain and Fatigue is horrible...if you live close to me, I would gladly offer you some free reflexology treatments...I also do guided imagery...which I have written about in some of my articles...you can sort of get an idea of my style by reading them...I recommend Guided Imagery for Celebration. Blessings...you really are a survivor!